The Paradox of Change… brings choice

Hello for Inner Synergy Community. Today I’d like to share how rewarding it is to provide options for people to see “who they are being” vs “who they may want to be”. This doesn’t mean people need to change ! Its the paradox of awareness, ownership, choice and having the option to stop doing things that do not benefit us – Choice.

In my public courses I see similar impacts of stress, anxiety, sleeplessness, rumination, worry, etc – basically out of control minds driven by different reasons. I’ve had course attendees stressed with the overwhelm reaction of study, people that are overwhelmed with work stresses, people overwhelmed with loss, unsettled-ness from lack of sleep, inner peace, belief system challenges etc. The common denominator is the out of control mind with thoughts and the inner critic causing all sorts of problems for them. Feedback / testimonials

Integrated Mindful living© practice does help. Its simple to do, though sometimes tricky to stick to! Why is that I hear you say (congratulations if still reading btw – great focus).  When we get stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, whatever the cause of an unsettled body and mind – we can get caught up in fear and mini fight or flight responses. This doesn’t help us as the amygdala becomes more active then bodily functions that are deemed “not needed for survival” get turned off or reduced. Including our prefrontal cortex – executive function, discernment of real threats etc. Its harder to focus and we are more easily distracted.

Mindful meditation practice helps –

Do you default into Can’t ?

My father would say “there’ s no such thing as can’ t … there is “difficult” and “shouldn’t”…  

Suggest not being in too much of a hurry to live in “can’t” – that can be self defeating.

I’ve been told many times that something “can’t be done” both personally and in work situations. Personally, the attitude of questioning “can’t” has worked well for me on many occasion. Obviously common sense has to prevail to know when it’s too difficult or that you shouldn’t.

In my view, the saying is about embracing determination, tenacity, resilience and flowing. This sometimes proved that “difficult at first” situations could actually be achieved (and, sometimes not)

However, I could be happy knowing that I mostly tried to do my best. Like Don Miguel Ruiz’s “Four Agreements” – one of the agreements is “always do your best”

Repetition and brain plasticity can be a wonderful opportunity to experience things differently ?  Interesting YouTube   Tedx Brain Presentation (click) Joe Dispenza


Comparison is a thief of happiness …

Can we accept ourselves without an incessant need to fix, or be better than others ? Any change can be driven by what serves our best interest and values.  Some tips:

Understand awareness and acceptance (see who you are now)

Learn to understand the power of thoughts and the mind

Grow to see things differently – (see who you want to be based on values)

With the right intention and practice, you can learn to experience more calmness, happiness and resilience – more often. Learn to respond in situations, rather than reacting !